Love and Disability: Chronic Pain

26Aug10

We don’t like seeing those we love hurt. It’s a completely natural response. We’re tied to these people, be they family, friends, partners, whatever. Our happiness and theirs are linked. Closely and tightly. When they hurt, we hurt for them. When they smile, we feel happy too. When they cry, we want to cry. When [...]

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Tags: disability, love, pain

In House Harassment And Apathy: How Communities Kill Activists

29Jun10

Activists work together. Very rarely is there a lone wolf thing going on with activists. We can be pretty social (mostly by necessity, trying to do this shit alone is hard). Quite often a community forms around bloggers, lobbyists, small organizations and non profits. This community coordinates the efforts of individual activists, aids them, supports [...]

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Tags: ableism, abuse, bullshit, bullying, cissexism, disability, fuck this fuckery, gender, in house hate, rage, sexual harassment, trolling

I Hate Eating

21Jun10

That title’s a little rough isn’t it? Food isn’t bad in and of itself. I love tastes and I enjoy feeling full. I get hungry like lots of people do and I still eat (although I forget to sometimes). What I hate about food is the pain. Some people might ask, “what’s painful about food?” [...]

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Tags: ableism, disability, food, fuck this fuckery, IBS, pain

Do Abled Folk Think We Have Magical Powers?

04Jan10

So I did something kind of foolish. I asked for advice on how to deal with my depression on twitter. I was a bit desperate really, I’ve been reeling and I don’t have a whole lot of help here. So I asked. I got a good chunk of good advice from other folks with depression. [...]

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Tags: ableism, depression, disability, privilege, PWD, rage, self esteem

Murphy’s Law And Disability: The Week From Hell

28Nov09

I don’t often write posts like this. Usually things have an activist slant. Or they’re more general. Or even when they deal with me personally, I’m writing it after I’ve already mostly figured it out and have some advice to offer. Normally I save stuff where I’ve got no clue and I’m reeling for dreamwidth [...]

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Tags: disability, family, medical, PWD, relationships

The Body Is Not The Only Aspect That Can Be Abled

16Nov09

Update: Going over the comments and other suggestions, I’m finding that Currently Abled (CA) is so far the best one out of all (including better than CAB/M/S). Further comments should discuss CA as I’m no longer in favor of CAB/M or CAB/M/S over just CA. There’s something that twigs me out a bit about the [...]

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Tags: ableism, CAB/M, disability, PWD, TAB, terminology

No More Denial: Disability And Me

11Nov09

Most of you may know by now. I have Attention Deficit Disorder. Technically Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: Inattentive Type, as the new DSM edits have revealed. I was diagnosed a while back, even medicated. I’m not currently as the stimulants trigger my IBS and I need a new diagnosis to get back on any med, [...]

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Tags: ableism, disability, expectations, identity, medical, PWD