Posts Tagged ‘expectations’

Crossposted to The Spectrum Cafe. Ever since I started transition, ever since I even started to explore my dissonance, people have walked all over me. People have hurt me, used me, fucked me over and said horrible things about me and the other women like me. When I started blogging, when I raised my voice […]


This post has been crossposted as a guest post at Questioning Transphobia here. There was an incident a few weeks ago. It didn’t happen to my face but it still was a direct invasion of my privacy. First, some background: If you don’t know me, I’m polyamorous. I date, love and am intimate with multiple […]


Most of you may know by now. I have Attention Deficit Disorder. Technically Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: Inattentive Type, as the new DSM edits have revealed. I was diagnosed a while back, even medicated. I’m not currently as the stimulants trigger my IBS and I need a new diagnosis to get back on any med, […]


This has all been said before. But I might as well offer some repetition because people aren’t getting it. There’s been a whole lot of talk about marriage lately. I’m sure you’ve all noticed the flurry of activity on the part of the GLB…(t) community to get legal marriage extended to gay couples all over […]


In tradition of my previous post of building trans women up and decentering cis folk’s oppression of us for a while (as well as avoiding the stress inducing shitstorm of anger toxicity that I get when I let rage consume the fuck out of me, as I have been doing lately), I’ve been working on […]


As a note, this is a general statement for folks with privilege in a given area. Which means it probably applies to you even if the specific examples given below don’t because you lack those privileges. Don’t get hung up on the details, think of the message. I consider this a For The Uninformed post, […]


No.

22Sep09

This post was originally published June 07, 2009 here. I will not pander to those who see me as a role or purpose in their lives. I am a person. If you can not accept my layers then you have no worth to me. If you act as though your comfort, your reputation is automatically […]


ID!

22Sep09

This post was originally published May 30, 2009 here. I haven’t changed my name yet because of some email issues and a lack of paperwork but I finally got my new driver’s license in the mail with a picture that doesn’t look like a male convict. So I am very very pleased. It isn’t the […]


Passing.

22Sep09

This post was originally published May 06, 2009 here. I’m going to have to say, I don’t really understand some of the attitudes around passing. For those not in the know, passing is a measurement of the capacity to either be recognized as a member of your target sex or alternately as a measurement of […]


This post was originally published May 4, 2009 here. Update: While I feel entirely justified in venting about this when comparing my letter to this email, a few people on WiG did raise a worry in me that my dad could find this blog. While I doubt it would change his supportiveness (I am effectively […]



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