Posts Tagged ‘sexuality’

Oh opinions, everyone has them. Just like anuses and poor life decisions. Aren’t they great? Lots of people want to share their opinions, ESPECIALLY when other people are talking about something deeply personal, painful and emotionally traumatizing! Well fear not, person who feels oh so important! I have a guide for you about that very […]


Crossposted at The Spectrum Cafe Identity. It’s deeply personal and for the most part we go way out of our way to protect it. Not just our own but others as well. At least when identity policing and erasure isn’t going on. It’s one of those sacrosanct inviolable rules of the Alphabet Soup community (GLBTQQIAsomethingsomethingetc) […]


Crossposted at The Spectrum Cafe I’d like to leave a note here that one can use bisexuality to mean more than two genders attracted to provided the why for it isn’t binarist or cissexist. Because the base definition isn’t inherently cissexist, there’s a lot of leeway to play with the word as an identity without […]


Warning: Some of the material described in this post may contain triggering descriptions of an abusive relationship that involved a rape. I tried to keep the description abstract but it may still be a problem for some. Some of the material in here may not be appropriate for younger readers as it describes in detail […]


This post has been guest posted at Harlot’s Parlour Chasers. Admirers. Fetishists. Words that often create a very emotional response from trans folk and many other groups for whom such things apply to. If you’re not in the know (and you probably aren’t, considering my audience) there’s a bit of explaining to do here. Let’s […]


Mild Clarification: Some people were a bit confused and thought that conceptual sexuality and physical sexuality are invariably separate. Actually, it’s quite possible to have both. So say if you were attracted to breasts and vagina only, but also could only find folks who are women attractive (so say, you’d not find a pre op/pre […]


I’m going to start this post with one statement to all of my sisters out there: You are beautiful. No exceptions. No dismissals. You. Are. Beautiful. What brought this on? Well besides the obvious (that more of us need to be built up instead of being torn down) I recently spotted a search term that […]


As a note, this is a general statement for folks with privilege in a given area. Which means it probably applies to you even if the specific examples given below don’t because you lack those privileges. Don’t get hung up on the details, think of the message. I consider this a For The Uninformed post, […]


As a warning, this post contains many internalized cissexist and transphobic tropes, as well as triggering language arising from those tropes. For that, I deeply apologize. Like all posts of mine where I have made serious mistakes, I will not edit or remove it but instead let it stand here as a reminder of my […]


This post was originally published June 22, 2009 here. Sexuality can be a bit of a bitch sometimes. It’s a twisty labyrinth of confusion and difficulty, often with nasty little dead ends, circular paths and irritating pitfalls. I’m not going to get into the topic of identity because that’s going to need an entire post […]



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