In House Harassment And Apathy: How Communities Kill Activists
Activists work together. Very rarely is there a lone wolf thing going on with activists. We can be pretty social (mostly by necessity, trying to do this shit alone is hard). Quite often a community forms around bloggers, lobbyists, small organizations and non profits. This community coordinates the efforts of individual activists, aids them, supports them and largely tries to use safety in numbers to enable more to get done and to do so in a way that doesn’t endanger its members.
And sometimes it becomes a giant tool of sexual harassment, trolling, fuckery and bullshit from fetid scumholes who really need a hollowpoint present through the esophagus.
Yes, I’m a little angry. You see, some people I like very much got chased the fuck off the internet by some fuckknob sexually harassing piece of shit. (More on the bullshit fiasco here). This is not uncommon. This happens in numerous communities, not just disability, not just the trans community either. Some fuckjob wants to play around, harass someone a bit, maybe troll them a little. The target does what they can to protect themselves and goes to the greater community, the people that link this scumfuck, that give them an arena to pull this shit in. And guess what the greater community does? Nothing. Sometimes the opposite of nothing. Sometimes they crack down on the victim. Yes, you heard me right, sometimes these shitmonglers tell the victim to GTFO or engage in apologist bullshit on behalf of the sexually harassing troll.
Not. Fucking. Okay.
Sexual harassment is NEVER acceptable. Trolling in house, using trolling on people of your own damn community who require the support of that community is NEVER fucking acceptable. And any community that allows this shit to go on is not a community. It is a tool. A scumfucky tool of oppression, bullying and harassment. And really, they don’t even have to make excuses for it. If they just ignore it, do nothing to stop it, they are a fucking problem.
How many fucking people have been chased out of activism by shit like this? More than I can count. So many blogs have just disappeared. So many lobbyists and non profit workers have quit and gone elsewhere. So many people have been hurt and have even committed suicide or self harmed because of this shit. And guess what? These cases so fucking often involve intersections of kyriarchy that this sort of cyberbullying, trolltastic, harassing snakefuckery is a case of oppression not just mistreatment. That’s right, often it’s men pulling this shit on women in disability, trans, pagan and etc communities. Often it’s cis pulling this shit on trans folk in these communities. Etc etc motherfucking etc. You get the idea.
And then, the fucking apologist excuses used for this behavior are just mind boggling.
Sometimes they call it “satire” (you edgy fucks need to look up what satire (m-w definition) means), others call it joking not realizing what jokes require to be jokes. And the rest try to play the Intent card to hide the fact that they’re fucking people over for shits and giggles.
Let’s be fucking honest with ourselves.
If you’re joking and your audience isn’t laughing OR EVEN BETTER feels fucking threatened by you? Get the fuck off the stage “Comedian” and [rethink your career path] – [edited for classist language ~RP].
If you think you’re doing satire, do try to read a fucking dictionary at least once in your life. Satire is a mockery of foibles and vices of society or the exposure of vice and folly using sarcasm, wit and scorn. Satire would be if I wrote a post mocking the shit out of your bullshit harassment. Like now. Oh look, an example.
If you think you’re just playing around and people shouldn’t be offended, do try to apply that when someone fucks you over. Let’s say you’re some scumfuck blogger in the disability community who’s sexually harassing autistic girls and really needs to be kicked down a well while someone screams SPARTA, as a hypothetical (of course). And let’s say someone treats you like shit for your disabilities. Try to remember when you told those people you harassed that it was just good fun and they shouldn’t be offended when you’re huffing and puffing your rage at some douchefuck abled guy telling you that you’re just a “faking useless [INSERT DISABILITY SLUR HERE]”. I guess hypocrisy must be attractive to some people. Maybe.
If we chase out all of our fucking activists because we can’t be mindful of intersection, because we just wanna fuck around and have fun at other people’s expense, then we don’t fucking deserve any consideration when we’re the ones being fucked with or being erased and silenced. Remember that, you snakeshit eating cuntguitars. These communities are for all of us. Not just you. Not just for your shits and giggles.
And I will fucking come down on your head like the fist of an rabid badger deity if I see you pulling it. Same goes for fucking communities too.
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