You Don’t Get To Tell Us Who Our Enemies Are
The internet has been shitstorming lately. It’s a familiar sort of shitstorm, the kind that arises over and over again in response to a far worse thing.
Wolves in sheep’s clothing.
If you’re not familiar with the feminism and the GL…b…. (t?) communities then you probably don’t know that, despite talking a great deal about privilege and the dangers that arise from trust for the privileged, mainstream feminism and cisGLB have this very bad habit of trying to tell women (woc and trans women and twoc) and trans people, bisexuals and poc (and any combination) respectively, who to trust.
Your two examples for the day.
The rapist, abusing, racist and misogynist dudebro known as Hugo Schwyzer who plays the what about the menz game in disturbing fashion and the racist, cissexist and bi-hating gay dudebro known as Dan Savage.
Hugo has been busy excusing his history as an abuser, a rapist and a creeper douchebro who preys on his own students, while attacking women (especially women of color, with his rampant racism) who criticize him. It gets worse though. You see, a lot of mainstream white feminist bloggers (like Amanda Marcotte, who I have no love lost for) and sites are throwing in with him (just google searching his name can find a bunch of feminists defending him) while going after mostly the woc who criticize him.
Then there’s Dan Savage who’s busy whining about being very validly glitter bombed. And of course, the gay cis men are all up in arms about how dare trans people see him as the enemy cuz apparently we have real enemies and unreal enemies or something.
Now that you have the background all I have to say is: fuck the hell off, you privileged shits.
Not just Dan UnSalvageable (Thanks to Raven for that awesome nickname) and Hugo Shithead, who are quite obviously the most privileged shits out of the bunch here. But also the mainstream middle class white cis abled feminist fuckheads who care more about book deals and reputation and their white guy buddies than women and the fuckhead cisGL whiners who think that just cuz you’re in the community means you can never be cissexist, bi hating or racist or misogynist.
This isn’t a new thing. It’s an ongoing trend. People like those two, privileged and trying to act as spokespeople for groups they aren’t even part of or attacking those groups and then freaking out when they get called on it? Not new. Very common. Along with the inevitable defense squad, oftentimes people you would think knew better but don’t. Or if they do they don’t give a shit.
It’s bullshit. It’s privileged, useless, self serving, hateful bullshit. We know who our enemies are. Our enemies are the people who try to rob us of our humanity, whether subtly or overtly. The enemies of oppressed people of any type are the ones who center themselves, who make careers on the backs of the oppressed and avoid criticism at all costs.
The enemies are the people who do harm (like rape, slurs, etc) and then hide it or try to excuse it and erase it. The enemies are the people who attack those they are privileged over, who use their privileges to hold onto their position of power over the discourse and the community. Not just the people who fire us. Not just the people who beat up oppressed people or overtly try to deny our humanity.
Enemies come in all shapes and sizes and styles. Infiltration has never been out of the question. It’s time for you and the enemies (as real as any other) you defend to sit down and shut the fuck up. And newsflash, all this fucking time you’re spending trying to tell various oppressed people who their “real” enemies are?
Is just proving you’re one of those fucking enemies.
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Tags: cissexism, douchebros, feminism fail, misogyny, racism